Wednesday, March 14, 2012
I received a lovely email from a reader yesterday that got me thinking back to the olden days. The days when the Mr and I were not on the same page or rather the same page in the wrong ways. People often assume how lucky we are to have each other on this weight loss adventure and don't get me wrong, we are. However, it doesn't always mean you have the support you need when you are ready and the other person isn't. We would make our half hearted attempts at losing weight and then we'd come home from a long day and the last thing we wanted to do was exercise. We'd hem haw around and it would get later and later and then "tomorrow" would get thrown in there while the other quickly agreed. I was always guilty of the "I had the worst day at work, I'm not in the mood to cook, let's order a pizza." The Mr not wanting to force me to cook whilst in a foul mood already and hell pizza always sounds good so pizza it was!
There were times one of us was ready and the other wasn't and there was a bit of resentment when "healthy talk" would be brought up. When the talk of getting healthy came up I immediately thought of all of the things I would have to give up, the restrictions, the longingly looking at things everyone else could have but poor fat me couldn't and food won. Fast forward to 200 lbs lost and looking at the way we eat and I think, "holy crap, I didn't have to restrict or give up a thing!" It was all about portion control and not going bat chit every day of the week. It was about having high cal day not start on Friday night and end Sunday at dinner time. It was about living smarter and longer. We are re-evaluating high cal days and we're going to put some rules on them so that the quality of them is better rather than just eating whatever because we're "entitled" to it. If we don't, it starts to slide back into that whole gray area of potential sabotage and we're not going there. It's good to be on the same page working toward a shared goal that involves us living an awesome life instead of seeing how long it would take to form a blood supply with the couch.
Do you have the support of your partner on your weight loss endeavor? Do you self sabotage?
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