You can't please everyone...so please yourself

That sounded dirty!  Is it wrong that actually made me like it more?  A few people on the other site who had addressed the negativity we were seeing emailed me and asked if I was getting backlash too.  I didn't know what they meant until one of them pointed out someone's blog to me that seemed to directly reference a blog I'd written on the subject.   It kind of ripped people like us a new one for bringing to the forefront what many people didn't want to address.  (Though don't you love the misery loves company addage that seemed to rear it's head which is what I felt when this person brought this blog to my attention.  "I'm getting attacked but I think this one is about you!"  hee hee)  I was going to address it at the site because it was written by a friend who pops in when she can.  A response kind of got me on this whole train of thought about why we choose to go back to old, unhealthy habits that we know aren't going to help us.  (And I WASN'T talking about her just in general the people who have the time to do it but choose not to work their plan)  Then I found that as I wrote the blog, I was pussyfooting around and with every point I made, I would be apologetic about it.  Funk. dat. noise!!  I don't apologize for saying what 20+ people told me were driving them (and me) away from the site.  I had 85 positive comments (who knows if I had 85-100 more telling me to go F myself) 27 private emails thanking me or asking for help which I gladly gave and various goodies and comments thanking me for being honest for something they were noticing too but didn't say anything for whatever reason.



I respect everyone's right to their opinion and I know that my brand of writing can be an acquired taste.  I don't even mind if it's something you liked in the beginning but your tastes have changed and you no longer get what you need out of my writing and move on.  It's happened and you just accept that if your crossing paths continues or not, you found each other at a time you needed each other.  But I've gotten way too many emails of people who have changed their way of thinking based off of something I said.  Whether it was a long term change or a short term one doesn't matter...the point is the things I say effect people for some reason and for that I am truly grateful.  You know how they say for every 99 people out of 100 that compliment your new haircut, it's the one person who said it looked bad that you'll remember.  I found myself changing my writing because of one person's opinon and despite the fact I really like this person, I'm not going to start changing the way I write because I realize that even if I want to, I can't please everyone. 

There are hundreds of thousands of blogs out there not only weight loss websites but in the health and fitness blogging world.  If you don't like the tone of the writer, you can move on to the next to find the person that helps you get the most out of your journey.  That's the awesome thing about this whole weird world.  I kind of live by "you can't sugar coat a turd.  It's still a turd."  (Classy eh?)  My point of view may not always be popular and I'm not writing to be popular, I'm writing because if just one person tells me that my journey has helped them in theirs, it was worth it.  I don't think asking people to take accountability for their health is a bad thing and I refuse to tell one more person who continues to come up with a list of *lame* excuses as to why they're not putting their health first "atta girl/boy."  I was full of those excuses and I know the damage they can do.  What I wouldn't have given back then for someone to have given me a swift talking to even if it hurt my feelings a little if it made me wake up out of my self destructive behavior. 

So this is me.  Raw, unPC/uncouth sometimes but willing to share my story hoping that others get some kind of benefit out of it.  You can take it or leave it.  If you take it, thanks so much for sticking with me and the roller coaster of my brain and if you leave it, well,  that's okay too.

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