Survival Mode Put Us Back to Zero
A lot of you came here many moons ago when I left Sparkpeople. I loved the community of that place and the support I got there. It was at the height of us being on our game. That motivation you have in the beginning when you're consistently rewarded with weight loss, smaller clothes, compliments to keep your motivation high and you somehow begin to step out of being invisible to the public to people smiling at you, opening doors or striking up conversation. You start to feel human. You don't have to worry about going to restaurants or 'fitting' somewhere. You can go to a wedding and see those God awful thin folding chairs and while you still don't like them, you're not concerned. Many of your worries that fit people never had to think of, have faded away. We started for the long haul in our 30's and that's when we had the most success, losing 226 and 190 lbs respectively. When we went on vacation, as long as we came back and got rig...
My Dad made it clear to me while he was in his last months that a lesson he learned was to live life the way I wanted and not let everyone else run it. I like to think I have heeded that to some extent. Obviously it's not easy doing that when you have to answer to a boss, co-workers, etc but I know that I am a more authentic version of myself than I was before and it helps to think about that from time to time.
ReplyDeleteI have a loved one give me this bit of wisdom that has stuck with me (although I admit to being a poor example at it more times than not, but it's been resonating a lot lately):
ReplyDelete"When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in your power. So change the situation by taking action or by speaking out if necessary or possible; leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness."
Then they said something funny that I also had to write down:
Relationships with negative people are simply tedious encounters with porcupines. Truth!