I got my first contact yesterday telling me how rude I am. I was diplomatic in my response but y'all know me (well the ones who do know me) I make it pretty well known in my About section that my style can be an acquired taste. I don't mind that people don't like my take on things. Thankfully, there are MILLIONS of blogs out there that people can read if they don't like mine. Incidentally, they had a point, it's been changed to some degree but I don't appreciate the condescending tone...and they call ME rude! Pssht!
For those who do think my story is worthy of following regardless of how I do things around my section of the blogsphere, I thank you. I'm glad you think my story is relavant enough to stick around for even if you don't agree with what I have to say or how I run my blog. That's the beauty of this world is the people who are meant to find each other and influence each other hopefully for the better, do. For those who prefer to bring others down or tell them what they're doing is wrong because it's not how they would do it, I guess I'd have to just hope that they find something more constructive to do with their time.
Incidentally, after this little virtual smackdown, I got a little package from a friend that made me smile and reminded me that there are people out there who do care and for them, I am eternally grateful!
I hope everyone has an awesome weekend!
Peace, Love and Hello Kitty,
The Mrs
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I love your honesty, your intelligence, and your desire. People just dot want to hear about real people with real thoughts and problems. They'd rather hear about rainbows and kittens. You ROCK Mrs, and I'm so glad I can go through this journey with you!
ReplyDeleteHolly
Honestly, people feel that if they're sitting behind a computer screen (with the ability to navigate away at any moment), that they can criticize whatever they want, however they want.
ReplyDeleteIt takes a lot to recognize that the content of which she spoke should be altered slightly.
Millions of people means millions of ideas of what is right and wrong. Which is fine. It's the judgement that causes problems.
It is your blog. People who are like minded and enjoy reading it will come back. If someone doesn't like it they can leave.
ReplyDeleteIt's like people who complain about TV shows to the producers when all they have to do is change the freaking channel!
I want to just tell people like that to CLICK OFF!
I love your blog. Only change if you want to, don't do it because someone else thinks you should. That'd be fake. I'm really crabby that someone felt the need to tell you that they didn't like your blog. They apparently have wayyyy too much time on their hands and need to get a life. Some people!
ReplyDeleteTo quote my High School Year Book, and seriously those are words of wisdom, "Don't ever change, you're so cool!"
Your BFF,
The_new_melissa
I don't understand why people feel the need to criticize your own personal blog. You are one of the most up front tell it like it is people in the blog world and you let people know up front even! People just don't have compasion any more. There is no respect anywhere. And ignorance is the norm now!!
ReplyDeleteKeep at it, I know you will!!!
Your blog, your style, your rules. I cannot stand people who think the whole interwebz is theirs to police. Makes me want to scream, "Bite me!" :)
ReplyDeleteIt's been said more eloquently above already, so ditto all of that.
ReplyDeleteIt's kind of like the TV, you don't like what you're watching change the channel!
ReplyDeleteIt's your blog, your outlet. Any changes should be made because you change NOT because some person thinks you're rude. People always want to change what they can't understand.
I happen to like you just how you are. To me, you're honest. Guess some people can't handle that.
I call bullshit! You know I love you :) and I think there is a huge difference between pointing out something and totally being rude about pointing whatever that is. Why do people have to be like that? Really they don't have anything better to do with their time?
ReplyDeleteKeep on keeping on. You know there is plenty of people who find what you say and what you are all about amazing and inspiring and the haters can go suck it :)
Whatever! Some people! I have to think that there is this sub-culture in cyber-space that is comprised of people so disatisfied with their own lives that, instead of spending time and effort on themselves, they go about tearing down others and telling them what they need to do differently-lots of times they are called trolls, I like the description of a person lurking under a bridge just waiting to inflict damage on an unsuspecting traveler, or blogger as the case may be. I think (personal opinion here, backed up by a little pseudo-psychology) they are also the ones looking for the "magic bullet". Sitting at the computer reading your blog is supposed to make their life better, instead of a workout or therapy, and when that fails they are disappointed. Rude? Nope. Unflinchingly honest? Hellz yeah. Keep it up "real blogger" :).
ReplyDeleteI could not agree with you more. I truly believe that people who are meant to connect do. My personal belief is that God directs our paths. Some folks believe in fate or destiny. Whatever it is is to individual people, I believe it.
ReplyDeleteThat said, I do not believe that our lives should be filled with only those who share our views, values, faith, political stance, attitude and so on. Oh, I don't think we should be surrounded by those who diametrically oppose who we are and what we stand for, not at all. Life's too short to be made miserable by the contentious. However, what a boring world it would be, though, if we only hung out with people who agree with us all the time!
I know you are tired of hearing this from me, but one of the things I love most, most, most about you is that you are authentic. You are YOU. You don't question who you are because someone challenges you, expresses displeasure with you, fails to acknowledge or approve of you. You are simply comfortable with being yourself. That is one of the most refreshing things in the WORLD.
You and I don't agree on some things, some of them very core and basic in life (me being very bold and vocal about my faith and choosing motherhood as my main vocation in life and neither of those avenues of life being things that you've chosen to define you). I explained that for those who may not have been privy to our exchanges over the time of our friendship so they didn't think I was like a Nazi or a monk or the sister of Jim Jones or David Karesh or something. lol There is so much in life that we do share in common, our devotion to and value of our marriages and our families, especially our elders, being chief among them. Both the things we have in common AND the things we don't cause me to admire you and make our friendship so precious to me.
For anyone to come into YOUR blog (which I very much view as your kitchen table or your couch) and tell you that you shouldn't express YOUR feelings as YOU see fit is absolutely obscene to me. What NERVE! The very nature of a public blog invites praise as well as criticism, and both can be given in with respect and dignity.
All too often, I think people who would NEVER blast away at someone in their everyday life, would sooner die than be verbally critical of their neighbors or family, who shrink away from any face to face conflict troll blogs and go on the attack instead of addressing issues simply because they are too cowardly to bully those who are in close enough proximity to smack them upside the head.
Now that you need an icepack for your eyes because I was so bloomin long winded today... lol I love ya. I love your authenticity. I love your honesty. I love your boldness. And I love, love, love your sassiness. Keep being YOU!!
and this is why i hate the general public.
ReplyDeleteRude - you?? Never. Brutally honest, yes, all the time and as is evident from the other comments, a trait we appreciate. MissyE said we don't always agree on everything and she's right. The world would be a really boring place if everyone always agreed about everything. For me, I can't imagine what they had to complain about but I sincerely hope you just continue to be you. I hope you and the Mr have a fabulous weekend!
ReplyDeleteSo, what did you say that made them feel you were being rude? I think there are certain people in this world that just aren't happy with ANYTHING. Period.
ReplyDeleteIt's sad, but I'm learning to just brush them off and continue my focus on those people who send me Hello Kitty Jelly Bellies (or something of that nature). LOL
I've never understood people who will make it a point to say something negative on someone else's blog. The whole point of commenting on a blog isn't to suck up on the one end, or criticize on the other. People are so odd, aren't they? I've actually had quite a bit of criticism for not blogging enough (and not in a nice, "hey, would love to hear how you're doing" kind of request). These have been emails that say I'm not "committed to my program because I don't post enough and blog about how I'm *really* doing). Good grief! My first instinct is to flip out (oh so easy for me to do), but then I just detach and realize that people like that have an agenda, and it's certainly NOT to help support and encourage me. So they get nothing from me and I don't bother to respond (which really pisses them off!LOL!) Differences of opinion are healthy, but attacking someone who is expressing their OWN opinion on their OWN blog is just ridiculous. Imagine just how hyper-critical they must be in their own life? Ugh.
ReplyDeleteI'm with the majority here - your blot, your rules.
ReplyDeleteI love you and your blog for all that it is, sassy, cynical, crude, and true. Oh. So. True.
To those that don't like it - read elsewhere.
Geez, some people honestly need to get a life! If they don't like your blogs then they don't have to read them. No one is holding a gun to their head making them read your blogs. It's your blog and you should be able to speak your peace. Some people are just unhappy people and want to bring everyone else down with them. I like that you are honest and open. Brush them off and just keep being who you are. You have plenty of supporters here who like that you are the way you are and you don't need the others who want to tear you down. Keep on being who you are!
ReplyDeleteHope you and the Mr are having a great weekend!
You have ARRIVED Miss Thang! :-)
ReplyDeleteLove you, love your story...but you already KNOW that! Keep on keepin on and don't change a thing!!! I'd be pissed at you if you did! :-D