Survival Mode Put Us Back to Zero
A lot of you came here many moons ago when I left Sparkpeople. I loved the community of that place and the support I got there. It was at the height of us being on our game. That motivation you have in the beginning when you're consistently rewarded with weight loss, smaller clothes, compliments to keep your motivation high and you somehow begin to step out of being invisible to the public to people smiling at you, opening doors or striking up conversation. You start to feel human. You don't have to worry about going to restaurants or 'fitting' somewhere. You can go to a wedding and see those God awful thin folding chairs and while you still don't like them, you're not concerned. Many of your worries that fit people never had to think of, have faded away. We started for the long haul in our 30's and that's when we had the most success, losing 226 and 190 lbs respectively. When we went on vacation, as long as we came back and got rig...
I had a combo science/music teacher who was also the choir director and I was part of the church choir as a kid and young adult so he was a big part of my life even after I left grade school where he was. He was a bit of a curmudgeon at times but he was still a big influence and encouraged me to pursue music but also gave me the interest in science that I have today - which eventually, I suppose, led to my career in IT. So thanks Mr C!
ReplyDeleteMiss G was a saint. I do think that these days there would be more help for a child going through that. We were expected to bear so much more back then. I had some really mean teachers. My third grade teacher was a gem though, he had all of the kids to his house for dinner in small groups, which was amazing because he had three handsome sons, every girl in the class was in love with them He listened to us, gave us the time of day. I think that is just essential for kids. One of my kid's third grade teacher sits them down on the rug every morning, and lets them all tell things, raise their hand and say random things. I was there for this a few times before field trips, some kids just said things like, "My uncle got a puppy!", but these kids just wanted to be heard, to be seen. She is an excellent teacher. Sorry for the long rant. I am sorry you went through such a rough year, and I totally would have kept the mouse too.
ReplyDeleteI think you're right, there would be more resources today. I did go to a counselor but she was at another school because this school put the po in podunk. LOL Unfortunately, that couldn't last long because mom was always stuck doing it and couldn't keep it up past 6 weeks- just when I was starting to come out of my shell over it. *rolling eyes* I found a pic of the mouse, I'll have to post it Friday!
DeleteOMG, what a lovely man! How special you all must've felt since teacher's lives outside of school seem like a wormhole. LOL (And the eye candy sons didn't hurt!) Aww, your kid's teacher sounds amazing. You're right, people of all sizes just want to be heard!
I didn't have the greatest experience in school because in primary school and middle school I was compared to my sister and heard a lot of, "Why can you be like X?" I went to a different high school, but pretty much kept to myself. I do remember having a speech therapist in the 3rd or 4th grade who I grew attached to at the school. She was very kind and caring.
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