Survival Mode Put Us Back to Zero
A lot of you came here many moons ago when I left Sparkpeople. I loved the community of that place and the support I got there. It was at the height of us being on our game. That motivation you have in the beginning when you're consistently rewarded with weight loss, smaller clothes, compliments to keep your motivation high and you somehow begin to step out of being invisible to the public to people smiling at you, opening doors or striking up conversation. You start to feel human. You don't have to worry about going to restaurants or 'fitting' somewhere. You can go to a wedding and see those God awful thin folding chairs and while you still don't like them, you're not concerned. Many of your worries that fit people never had to think of, have faded away. We started for the long haul in our 30's and that's when we had the most success, losing 226 and 190 lbs respectively. When we went on vacation, as long as we came back and got rig...
I wanted to get married on July 4th (a Saturday that year, easy to remember, and fireworks "just for us" right?) but the minister was busy that Saturday. And the next. So we just took the next available Saturday. I didn't worry too much about my cycle because when I was on the pill I knew that by Saturday I was either completely done or just had light spotting left. But... after seeing Sixteen Candles you better believe I did give it some thought and check the calendar and choose a Saturday date for more than just my guests' convenience.
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I had lived together a while before getting married so we were aiming for low key and convenient: Dad's house on a Saturday in July which was a slow month for hubby at work. But my now Father-in-law had committed to work a swim meet on the day we chose and wasn't going to come if we kept that day, even though we gave him several months notice and he had no ties to the meet beyond the fact that hubby's younger siblings used to swim in that meet. Used to. But he wasn't going to budge so we had to move it. A sign of things to come.
ReplyDeleteLet me say, though, over the years I've decided he isn't selfish, just inflexible. I think he's on the spectrum, which makes family gatherings interesting.
Mine was pretty simple. It's my husband's birthday. LOL I thought Sept would be a nice month in San Diego and he said how about my birthday and I said works for me. =o)
ReplyDeleteOk not sure you will see this but gonna put it out there. In our family we tend to pick holiday, My parents was April 1, My in-laws was Dec 26 my sister was Valentine, and we wanted a different not thought of one and we both love color so Colubus day it was. LOl
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