tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post3569004835860979505..comments2024-03-27T20:40:50.047-04:00Comments on Success Along the Weigh: Setting the Record StraightAnele @ Success Along the Weighhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03986921867517926199noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post-3011325305613155112019-12-05T21:32:36.173-05:002019-12-05T21:32:36.173-05:00Thanks hon. It did need to be said and I hope she...Thanks hon. It did need to be said and I hope she heard it. I know it was painful for you but our lives are so much better without that dude in our lives.Anele @ Success Along the Weighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03986921867517926199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post-89781649594929639122019-12-05T21:31:27.399-05:002019-12-05T21:31:27.399-05:00I sure hope so. Unfortunately, there's a payo...I sure hope so. Unfortunately, there's a payoff there for being embroiled in some of the stuff she chooses to get involved in. While I know that will likely never change, I hope that at least things between us will be more authentic. Anele @ Success Along the Weighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03986921867517926199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post-45900099534063746482019-12-05T21:20:43.248-05:002019-12-05T21:20:43.248-05:00The Mr had the same thing happen to him and it was...The Mr had the same thing happen to him and it was years of agony mentally. Thankfully, he's gotten past it and knows it's the dude's loss.Anele @ Success Along the Weighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03986921867517926199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post-2425388382313068802019-12-05T21:19:50.070-05:002019-12-05T21:19:50.070-05:00There is nothing worse than someone who makes what...There is nothing worse than someone who makes what should be a wonderful family celebration something you want to stay 100 miles away from. At this point, there's nothing you shouldn't be afraid to say to her and tell your brother "I love you but control your wench." Then pop some popcorn. :DAnele @ Success Along the Weighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03986921867517926199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post-48998866999011873972019-12-05T21:17:24.926-05:002019-12-05T21:17:24.926-05:00Yes. Unfortunately, this is only a fraction of th...Yes. Unfortunately, this is only a fraction of the reason she still looms. She was going to dump them (multiples) when they were 18 months old for a fling in another country. Honestly, would've been the best thing to happen to them. Anele @ Success Along the Weighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03986921867517926199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post-57318924605142560082019-12-05T15:48:13.058-05:002019-12-05T15:48:13.058-05:00I have a SIL that has caused much damage and troub...I have a SIL that has caused much damage and trouble. From talking crap to taking stuff and accusations. Crazy that she is still in our lives. I don't know why I've never said anything... Well, I guess I did get into with her once over my kid. You don't mess with the kid. lol. SIL is always taking my mom aside and whispering including stuff about my brother, her husband and my mom's son. Mom is good at speaking up now. She wasn't in the past but all it took was one time and she felt strong. Now mom tells her "That's enough." It doesn't stop the SIL from giving my brother an earful, but that's his problem. <br /><br />Oh and the fights. They fight in front of us like crazy. Wanting you to take sides. Trying to get you into it. No way! <br /><br />I dread family stuff and have said no plenty of times. The subject of Christmas Eve is going to come up and I just don't wanna do it. I have to hide everything and watch what I say (everything is amo to this chick). <br /><br />We have distanced ourselves and they are silly enough to wonder why. That's alright too. Only wish some people didn't make it so darn hard to love them.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15206731358532834041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post-58214538980451651702019-12-05T15:39:18.544-05:002019-12-05T15:39:18.544-05:00Wow, that sounds amazing to have addressed. I don&...Wow, that sounds amazing to have addressed. I don't have any lingering items like this hanging out there. I try to clear them immediately. I don't like giving people free rent in my head. I do have an ex friend who simply walked away. That puzzled me for a long time and I couldn't really figure it out. I decided not to internalize it, keeps my BP in check. Thank you for sharing this. Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07818785860858381950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post-31296672760417777712019-12-05T14:41:34.104-05:002019-12-05T14:41:34.104-05:00I hope things are better. But be cautious not to e...I hope things are better. But be cautious not to expect much. <br /><br />Are there grandchildren involved that your MIL is still in contact with an exDIL? Vickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05452333714845476967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post-1321877380631229032019-12-05T09:04:45.251-05:002019-12-05T09:04:45.251-05:00What an amazing conversation that had to be! I...What an amazing conversation that had to be! I'm so happy you both got to truly hear each other and get to that very vulnerable place. Since you said she struggles with really feeling her emotions, she may not have shown it right then, but I have zero doubt that she will be thinking about this conversation and it will resonate more and more, especially when she has interactions with other family members, and the Wicked Witch from the West. She'll have a completely different perspective, and mind-set, and perhaps she'll begin to set her own mental boundaries where these people are concerned. It may be a slow process, but this could really lead to a changed life, and a very good relationship between the two of you. I am SO happy that you did this and can feel 100% at peace with what you said, knowing you were completely honest and genuine in wanting to clear the air and have a clean slate with her. I think you'll see gradual changes in her as you get together in the coming year. <br /><br />I've had some "clearing of the air" with people, from family to friends to an old boss that I felt I need to make some serious amends with. I've gone into all of these conversations with the firm belief that I was only responsible for sharing my words honestly, but to leave the outcome up to God. I do my part and the results are out of my hands. Some relationships have been healed, the conversation with my boss was incredibly healing for both of us and he continues to send Christmas cards every year, and some relationships went by the wayside as perhaps they were meant to do. I feel no anger with those, and feel more relief in a sense because they weren't healthy relationships to begin with. So I feel more peace now in my life by letting go of the emotional energy I constantly used up, either fighting the bitter resentments I've carried for so long, or for trying to hold on to relationships far longer than I should have. Free, indeed. Woodsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15431620540378335467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post-39657415224600135802019-12-05T07:48:31.624-05:002019-12-05T07:48:31.624-05:00I am so proud of the way you handled this. It was ...I am so proud of the way you handled this. It was something that needed to be said for so long and I'm glad you got the chance to do it. It was no way to keep on going with having feelings like that stuffed down deep, never seeing the light of day. As much as I know my Mom didn't know exactly how to respond at first, I know that deep down she appreciates what you did. It will help both of you move on from what was a ridiculous situation to begin with that was further eroded by a vindictive evil person who purposely used the situation to their demented benefit. The Mr.https://www.blogger.com/profile/04233628447251244134noreply@blogger.com