tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post5214427459087598077..comments2024-03-27T20:40:50.047-04:00Comments on Success Along the Weigh: Sad or a relief?Anele @ Success Along the Weighhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03986921867517926199noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post-60789789078775528692017-08-10T18:02:24.294-04:002017-08-10T18:02:24.294-04:00I was grateful that my loved one's passing end...I was grateful that my loved one's passing ended her horrendous suffering. It came much faster than we realized it would, so there wasn't the time to prepare as much as I had hoped, and we never did get to say our goodbyes or have those final moments, and I carry a lot of regret about that. Her friends have told me it was probably a blessing they didn't see her in that condition because that's not who they remember, and they are right. I am still very much haunted by her deterioration, along with the final moments, along with the coroner, and along with the body bag being zipped as my last memory. I had no idea then the price I would pay emotionally being a part of all of it, but I can say without a doubt that I'm glad I was there. It was nothing, absolutely nothing, compared to what she lived with on a daily basis. One of her friends kept protesting and telling me I didn't need to be in the room -- and insisted I shouldn't be -- because "she would understand." Nope, not okay with me. She had the courage to face this disease the likes of which I've never imagined possible, so I needed the courage to face it with her. She was there for the beginning of my life so I felt I should be there for the end of hers. Do I wish I had had support there those last couple of days, and in the room, and when the coroner was gone and the oxygen machine was turned out and the house was so eerily quiet? 100%. But that wasn't my reality and I had no choice but to accept it quickly and do what needed to be done. To know that her suffering came to an abrupt end is the ONLY thing that kept me from completely falling apart. I was so thankful that the struggle was over for her and she could finally rest.dalbador1https://www.blogger.com/profile/09877799102438622117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post-18312484866365152432017-08-10T16:26:12.252-04:002017-08-10T16:26:12.252-04:00I understand what you are saying. Of course we ar...I understand what you are saying. Of course we are sad to lose our loved ones, but sometimes they are lost to us long before they pass. another layerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15756727485274694135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post-83900216490354504312017-08-10T14:53:53.126-04:002017-08-10T14:53:53.126-04:00So well said. Yes when my mother passed (it took ...So well said. Yes when my mother passed (it took 11 years-as she was diagnosed at and early age of 59) it was such a relief. Sad but a relief and I still feel rather guilty saying that out loud. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07280737333101154468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post-38678194272480554742017-08-10T10:22:58.181-04:002017-08-10T10:22:58.181-04:00I've never commented before, but yes I have fe...I've never commented before, but yes I have felt relief when someone passed. My mom was young, only 59. However, she suffered many years was sickness that can't be labeled. It's been almost 8 yrs. I miss her like crazy but wouldn't want her here suffering like she was either. Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17543993837392316818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post-84609050386054990842017-08-10T09:59:31.152-04:002017-08-10T09:59:31.152-04:00So well-said. I couldn't agree more. I have be...So well-said. I couldn't agree more. I have been following Glen's journey because I've loved him since I first heard his voice. We even saw him on his farewell tour and I will cherish that memory forever. His daughter had to help him with the words and you could just feel love. I know music helped him so much. I am glad he's free. My family went through the same feelings when my Mom got sick with cancer. In the end, all you want is for their suffering to end. The love never ends, it just gets stronger. God bless everyone dealing with this in their life....Donna Steely Arnoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02287040071982563335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381223979507114346.post-84171636978306482922017-08-10T07:15:37.754-04:002017-08-10T07:15:37.754-04:00I had no idea Glen's family was doing that for...I had no idea Glen's family was doing that for him but it is great that they did. Makes me even more perturbed that we could not get our family on-board with such a simple task. Anyone feeling any guilt about wanting someone to be free of pain, or worse, from any disease need only think about the fact that we do the same merciful things for animals. Our instinct as humans is to put any suffering animal out of its misery if we can. So I think it's only natural to feel the same way when we see especially loved ones either suffering or in a state of dementia but the difference is that society runs counter to this instinct when it comes to humans. I fail to understand why that is but it does seem like things are changing for the better. Talking about it, like you are here, is one of the ways we change things for the better though.The Mr.https://www.blogger.com/profile/04233628447251244134noreply@blogger.com