Wednesday, September 24, 2014
Not up for the judgment game
We have had a very busy month and tonight is the last of our official birthday entertaining. We said that we really want to start to watch things closer and committed to doing that long before this week came along. I don't know what happened but some parties got their wires crossed and each thought the other invited the Mr and I to a dinner on Monday night. There was no mention of it until the day before but we weren't up for it, had other plans that we'd been looking forward to and honestly, we didn't want to break our re-commitment to ourselves. I was already going to seriously have to flip around some stuff for today's entertaining to stay in my calorie range and I wasn't in the mood to juggle another night at a place both of us hate. One was trying to guilt us into it by saying it was important to them but apparently not important enough to send out a reminder a few days or a week before. Regardless of the mix up, we were looking forward to our plans which were important to us so pffft.
It's not just the lack of thought on their part, I was in no mood to deal with the crap that tends to come along when we order the healthiest fare they offer at a restaurant. Yes, we could've just given in, gotten salads or something like that but we're not in the mood to juggle a week night sodium fest, passing up bread baskets, being looked at like lame-o's because we're the only ones eating healthy and such. I don't understand why some people seem to get so offended when others have committed to living a healthy lifestyle. They don't even need to come out and say anything, it's in the uncomfortable shift in their seats when they order deep fried whatever and we order baked salmon with asparagus with no butter and water to drink. It's the roll of the eyes when you pass up dessert or even a bite of someone else's, not because you're trying to make everyone else look bad but because you've meticulously planned your calories for the night and sticking to them is more important than making someone else feel better about their own food choices. People seem to feel like they need to explain why they ordered what they did..."oh, I figured a night off of good eating was in order" or " I didn't eat breakfast and have been saving up all day for this."
Guess what, I don't give a crap! I don't care why you're eating what you're eating. Just like you shouldn't care or feel somehow shamed by us eating what we choose to eat. Do I know the calories or fat grams on your dish? Probably. But not out of judging, it's because I saw it on the menu earlier and I have a stupid ability to remember the most high cal dishes on the menu just as I memorize three choices that will keep us on track. Would I ever tell someone that? Hell no! They seem to be irritated enough that we know the calorie count of our own dish, no reason to heighten the paranoia about theirs. Some people will never get it and that's fine. I remember the days when I resented people for ordering something healthy and making me feel like a cow for ordering something I wanted regardless of the calorie count. I don't know if that's how these people feel but it's the vibe they give off when we sit there in silence sometimes. Or the awkward way someone grabs another roll by either trying to get one on the sly or make a comment about why they're having another one.
Eat a roll! I promise I don't care.
That night, we had a damn fine shrimp dish that we both really loved and had a great workout and for us, that was more fulfilling. That and not succumbing to peer pressure at the last minute when we've already done so much this month. I'm sure I'm on someone's shit list right now but ask me if I care. We put our health first that night both nutritionally and mentally. I don't care if it's not the popular choice, it's the choice we made for ourselves and I can't feel anything but good about it.
Have you ever felt judged by what you ordered at a group gathering? (Whether you ordered something healthy or not)
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