Thursday, September 5, 2013
Feeling the burnout
When I did the Mr's milestone birthday party last year, I threw it together pretty quick for me...6 weeks. Now 6 weeks might sound like more than enough time but I wanted to do it up right for him and knowing that people would be there who are Pinterest diehards, I knew there would be a certain expectation to what could be. Well I did homemade mason jar cider glasses, redecorated a beverage tin with a jute twine rope with a bottle opener attached with the fancy pants sodas inside, mesh table liners over craft paper and mini hay bales with apples and mini pumpkins. Homemade cake ball favors and desserts in addition to the cake since the lunch was being catered. A big picture board with his age painted in chalkboard paint so people could leave messages on the back. It was all wonderful and all of the Pinterest people were highly impressed. I just thank God it wasn't around when my mom's 50th birthday rolled around. That one took me 9 months of planning and if that expectation had been there for that one, I would've been there in spirit while resting comfortably on sedatives at the asylum. Don't get me wrong, I loved planning the Mr's party, getting that creativity out and I didn't even get any of those ideas from Pinterest anyway but I knew that things have shifted and yes, I got sucked into it. It's a blessing and a curse to someone like me with the entertaining gene.
My friend has been planning her future sister in law's wedding and bachelorette parties, etc and she is being run ragged. She's been a zombie for 2 months and it's not even her wedding! There is such an expectation to go all out for a unique party/shower/wedding that it's not really enjoyable for those having to put it all together anymore. I mean hell man, I was thrilled with my bachelorette party and it was my mom, aunts, grandma and 3 best friends going out to dinner, a comedy club and renting a hotel room for the stripper (who was like a monk compared to today's strippers) to dance in and we had a slumber party afterward. I didn't need an all day affair with mani/pedi's, a culinary tour of the city, group shirts so everyone would know we were together in a posse and a tiara or veil so that people would try to embarrass me all night. I'm NOT judging people who do all that stuff. I think it's fine if you want it or you want to go all out for the occasion but I fear that the focus is getting skewed a bit. I'm a simple person with simple tastes, I guess...or just an old lady now. I really wanted this rad 80's theme party with family and friends for my next milestone birthday but after seeing the way some people made his party about them or other emotional vampires that purposely weren't invited, the Mr has strict instructions that we will have 2 separate dinners...one for family and one for friends. No rad 80's theme. Just give me a drama free birthday please, apparently that's now more important to me than this blowout party I'd always envisioned. Sigh.
I read all kinds of blogs from food to design blogs and the Pinterest influence is everywhere. Lately I've been getting more and more irritated with the things I've been seeing. People unveil their homes or room redo's and while yes, they may have needed an update, they go so far to wanting to live in that over styled magazine they read or pinned that, to me, the rooms now feel unlivable. It feels like someplace where if I were a guest in the home, I would be sitting on the edge of the couch with my hands on my knees afraid to relax and definitely would refuse a drink because I wouldn't want to get water rings on the coaster.
Don't even get me started on what parents are expected to do for Valentines Day, Christmas (oops, I mean the holiday season or whatever PC bullcrap people call December now) and birthday parties. What the hell happened to crepe paper streamers, balloons, a cake and a table with a cardboard happy birthday banner across it for the presents? Yeesh!
Food blogs are becoming a big time turn off. I swear to God if I see one more 6 main ingredient "stuffed" cookie/brownie/cupcake, I'm going to puke. I saw one last week that was just like "are you serious!??!" It literally looked like a big pile of dung and there were so many ingredients (all good on their own or mixed with 2-3 of them) they just looked and sounded gross. I've got news people...the flavor of Nutella greatly diminishes when you try to bake it. Matter of fact it says this on the jar...
Yes, I know it says "do not microwave" but I think heat is the main point here. It's not that you CAN'T bake it but personally I think it's a "just because you can doesn't mean you should" thing. I want to be able to taste the Nutella and you can taste it better as a plain spread, a filling, mixed in with frosting and such...not dumped in a bowl with Oreos, pretzels, peanut butter, M&M's, oats, peanut butter cups and chocolate chips. I mean come on folks, chocolate and peanut butter together are pretty friggin' fantastic! Six extra ingredients not required!
To conclude my rant, I think Pinterest is a great site...in moderation. I'm thankful for people who visit my Pinterest page and find something they love and repin it if that's what makes them happy. But I'll be honest... I pin stuff, forget about them and never look at the board again. Bad blogger, I know. Pinterest fail for me. (Or is that how everyone does it?) But it's just too over saturated and such a time suck that I have to prioritize things. While inspiration is a wonderful thing, let's not try to live in the magazine, please. I think many people are spending so much time obsessing over every detail that they may be missing the big picture.
Do you like Pinterest? Do you feel like it and similar websites have changed societies expectations of how we live and entertain?
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